Sunday, December 29, 2019

Can Love Relationships Ever Return to What They Used to Be?

Many people reminisce about the good old days.  Even US presidential campaigns have been created about how great things were in the past.  When it comes to relationships, many women believe men were men, back in the day.  They were

Sunday, December 22, 2019

Has Divorce Become a Destructive Invisible Hand?

Divorce is a $50 billion industry.  As the industry generates billions, what price are we paying on the backend?

On the surface, divorce seems like a perfectly

Sunday, December 15, 2019

Do Celebrities Influence Women More Than Men?

Many people claim the media does not influence them.  Yet, celebrities initially present the latest hairstyles, clothes, body images and slogans.  Then it is later

Sunday, December 8, 2019

Is Toxic Femininity Hurting Society?

Over the past few years, the media has been filled with messages about “toxic masculinity”.  It almost appears that simply being a man is toxic.  We are condemned for being masculine.  It makes me wonder if women are upset that they are incapable of mastering

Sunday, December 1, 2019

Do Violent Mothers Make Violent Sons?

Women initiate an enormous amount of violence on men and boys.  As men, we keep our lips sealed.  We have been indoctrinated with the belief that it is improper to discuss bad behavior by women.  We are charged with the responsibility of protecting women, no matter what.  Silence about the violence we endure is one way to protect women.  That silence can create

Sunday, November 24, 2019

Is It Worth It to Date Reformed Older Women?

Evelyn Lozada claims she is ready to settle down with the right guy.  She has given up premarital sex and is saving herself for the right man.  Except, she is now 43 and has had more

Sunday, November 17, 2019

Do You Know the Wealth Building Strategies of the Affluent?

When it comes to wealth in a capitalistic society, there are rules of engagement.  In a way, it is no different than sports.  When it comes to sports, you must know the rules, train for them, have a strategy and execute like a professional.  When you don’t know the rules of engagement or how to train, you

Thursday, November 14, 2019

Wednesday, November 13, 2019

Transformation Requires You to Unlearn What You've Learned

Sometimes you have to unlearn what you learned before you move forward.

What you have learned can be stalling you like a virus in a computer.

Sunday, November 10, 2019

Has Black Lives Matter Been Beneficial for the Black Community?

Without getting into who funds BLM, George Soros and the Ford Foundation, what has BLM done for the black community?  It seems they are Johnny on the spot when a black man is beaten or killed by non-black police officers.  Yet, they are nowhere to be found when a black man is killed through gang violence.  The paradox is they get great exposure when a black male is abused by law enforcement.  At the same time, they are against

Sunday, November 3, 2019

How Do Fixed or Growth Mindsets Affect Your Love Life?

People with fixed minds are smart.  They have learned much and rely greatly on their abilities and what they already know.  That mindset allows them to navigate the world while using the knowledge they have already acquired.  The growth mind also learns much.  Except, they are more open to venturing into unknown territory.  That unknown territory can have

Sunday, October 27, 2019

Do Strippers Make Good Wives?

At one point, being a stripper was an embarrassment to your family.  Some women did it in secret as a way to work their way through college or earn extra money.  In today’s environment, women applaud one another for being a stripper.  Even the female President of the NAACP, Dr. Cheyenne Bryant,

Sunday, October 20, 2019

Would You Date Your Best Friend’s Ex?

Dating is becoming increasingly complex in the US.  While social constructs are being turned upside down, dating rules have stayed the same.  Women earn more than men.  Yet, men are still responsible for financing dates.  When you add high divorce rates, the fear of infidelity and an enormous amount of unemployed men, dating becomes an almost impossible task.  This has resulted in a

Sunday, October 13, 2019

Are There Benefits for Men in Marriage?

Marriage has come a long way from where it started.  In western culture, marriage was not always a ceremonious event.  It started as a verbal agreement between two people.  Your word was your bond.  If it didn’t work, divorce was just as simple.  However, when it did work, roles were clear and simple.  The couple worked and lived together as a team.  Their cooperative union made life easier.  When children came into the picture, the couple

Friday, October 11, 2019

Interview: 20 Questions with Ted Santos & Tim Kirk

Tim Kirk sits down with Ted Santos to ask some of the most revealing 20 questions about life, career and business.  Tim is the producer of Two Zero Q – 20 Questions with Interesting People.  Ted is the Chairman of the Board of Veteran CEOs.  He is also an executive coach to CEOs and other executives.  He helps them create disruptive strategies.  Then build a corporate culture that is capable of executing the disruptive strategy.  
This interview is kind of like a who are you and how did you get to where you are.  
It's a show you won't want to miss.  Join us for a high impact, counterintuitive show that will leave you thinking.  
To hear interview: Click here.

Sunday, October 6, 2019

Cognitive Dissonance: What Is It and How Is It Ruining Your Love Life?

When people experience something that questions or invalidates their beliefs, they figure out a way to ignore the new information.  Think of the cigarette smoker who learns of the health risks of smoking.  They can simply respond with “we’re all going to die anyway”.  In the 21st Century, people embrace the slogan of

Friday, October 4, 2019

Are Arranged Marriages Better for Society?

On September 29th, I did a talk show about arranged marriages.  For some reason, it sparked controversy.  A couple of men and most women were upset about being forced to marry someone they didn’t love.  Yet, over 50% of marriages fail.  That means, even though most couples enter matrimony in the name of love, the

Sunday, September 29, 2019

Here’s Why Arranged Marriages Are Needed Now More Than Ever

On the surface, arranged marriages sound absurd.  For some, it may sound like oppression.  At the same time, the institution of marriage is in trouble.  Large numbers of men are losing interest in dating or marrying.  Conversely, women’s desire to marry is

Sunday, September 22, 2019

What Do You Do When You Find the One and You Are Not the One For the One?

As children, we are taught about finding that special person.  That person is called the “One”.  They are the person who makes us feel special and we want to spend the rest our lives with them.  We even tell the world that we have found our soul mate.  However, are we told how to

Sunday, September 15, 2019

How Should We Deal With Women Who File False Rape Charges?

Rape is a horrible crime.  It seems most believe perpetrators of the crime should be punished.  However, when a man is falsely accused of rape, his entire life can be ruined.  And the woman walks away without a slap on the wrist.  When a man rapes someone, the penalty is severe.  That is to discourage the crime.  If there is no penalty for

Sunday, September 8, 2019

Here Is Why She Is Not Qualified to Build Generational Wealth With You

In the past, marriages were arranged.  Those arranged marriages allowed families to choose a partner that could best protect and grow the family’s wealth.  Instead of your son or daughter choosing the person they loved most, parents sought the most suitable person based family compatibility and assets.  That allowed each generation to become wealthier.  For example, a family with a substantial amount of

Sunday, September 1, 2019

Are There Challenges to Having a Relationship with a Career Woman?

If you ask career women if she presents challenges to men, she may say no.  Yet, there are many unmarried career women who claim they cannot find a suitable mate.  For example, in the late 80s, the Wall Street Journal did a story on a small group of women in their mid 40s.  Those women went on a crusade to help young girls avoid the career trap.  These ladies had never been married, no children and no prospect for a husband.  When asked, they said they wanted marriage and children.  So they traveled around the US to

Sunday, August 25, 2019

Are There Challenges to Having a Relationship with a Career Woman?

If you ask career women if she presents challenges to men, she may say no.  Yet, there are many unmarried career women who claim they cannot find a suitable mate.  For example, in the late 80s, the Wall Street Journal did a story on a small group of women in their mid 40s.  Those women went on a crusade to help young girls avoid the career trap.  These ladies had never been married, no children and no prospect for a husband.  When asked, they said they

Sunday, August 18, 2019

Do Women Know How to Pursue Men?

When it comes to dating, there is a social constrict that says: “men are hunters”.  Therefore, it is only natural for men to pursue women.  In the animal kingdom, no animal hunts for sex.  They only hunt for sustenance.  That means animals only hunt for that which feeds and nourishes them.  When it comes to a mate and sex, male animals

Sunday, August 11, 2019

Do Women Know What Men Want?

From little boys, men are told all the things they should do for girls and women.  We hear it from our parents, teachers, friends, family and media.  We know our role and some do it better than others.  Furthermore, our role is so well known that even women know what we are supposed to do.  They have memorized the entire list and

Sunday, August 4, 2019

Here Are the Top 5 Reasons Your Relationship Is Failing Now

Most relationships fail.  That means they never make it to a committed partnership like marriage.  Before it goes to a life long commitment, the relationship dissolves and the couple will go their separate ways.  Even when they make it to marriage, many of those fail.  Why?    

The biggest problems for failure appear to

Sunday, July 28, 2019

How Do Men Deal With a Wife Who Makes More Money Than Him?

For eons, men were expected to go out and hunt and bring home the bacon for the woman to cook.  In the past few decades, women have been climbing the corporate ladder and earning higher incomes.  In some cases, she earns more than most men she meets.  When a woman earns more, does that change

Sunday, July 21, 2019

Why Are Men Hesitant to Seek Mental Health Professionals, Even When They Are in a Crisis?

As a rule, men are taught to be strong mentally and physically.  When they face insurmountable circumstances, they are told to be tougher than the situation.  Yet, men commit 77% of suicides.  When suicide is the best solution, it means a man is facing challenges that may appear to be over his head.  Yet, he believes

Sunday, July 14, 2019

How Do You Know If You Are Dating the Wrong Person?

All that glitters is not gold is an appropriate line in the dating world.  There are many women who look great, on paper.  However, once you get to know her, the person she pretended to be disappears.  That’s because she sent her well-trained representative to make a good impression.  When the representative retires, the kind, gentle woman who wanted to

Sunday, July 7, 2019

How Does Postpartum Depression Affect Men?

As men, we witness the joys of pregnancy and birth.  While we are surely part of it from conception to birth, we don’t feel the changes a woman’s body goes through.  At the same time, we are affected by those changes.  In most cases, we want to

Sunday, June 30, 2019

Does Sex Help or Hurt Wealth Building?

For most, sex is a feel good activity.  Unfortunately, in the USA, most women never have the complete experience of how good sex can be.  According to a September 21, 2017, article in Metro, titled Almost 80% of Women Don’t Orgasm from Penetrative Sex, many women in the US never reach a climax.  So why are they having sex?  In some marriages, they are not.  Furthermore, there are millions of men

Sunday, June 23, 2019

What Does Trust Have to Do With a Great Relationship?

"Trust men and they will be true to you; treat them greatly, and they will show themselves great." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson

From the time we learn to speak, we are taught the importance of trust.  In fact, we are told if there is no trust there is no relationship.  When trust dies, we are told the relationship dies.  We even hear how important

Sunday, June 16, 2019

What Are the Top 3 Problems in the Black Community?

Black people: we’ve got so much work to do.

We act like we've got this thing called Life all figured out, but we don't. We come off like we’re truly making progress as a people, but we’re not.

Whether it’s on our

Sunday, June 9, 2019

Top 10 Relationship Killers!

In January, we gave the top 10 things to do to make a relationship work.  This Sunday we are going to provide the top 10 things you should never do. 

Some of the items on the list may appear to be common sense.  Yet, they

Sunday, June 2, 2019

Can a Man Date Without Spending Money?

Even though most people are seeking love from an intimate relationship, the dating world is filled with traps, dead ends and black holes.  For women, they fear the dead end relationship that is only about sex.  For men, one of their biggest fears is to meet the woman who turns his bank account into a

Sunday, May 26, 2019

What’s Your Advice?

Many of our listeners have come to depend on the solid feedback and information provided on our shows.  To expand that feedback, we have launched a Facebook group under the name Straight Talk.  That group has continued the tradition of provocative and counterintuitive discussions.  In fact, the activity has

Sunday, May 19, 2019

Do Women Have A Problem Dating Men In The Limelight?

It was roughly a week ago this time that the nation began trending and deliberating about NBA superstar Steph Curry’s wife, Mrs. Ayesha Curry. 

For those not in the know, we’ll make it brief. She did an interview with Jada Pinkett Smith. In the discourse with Jada, Ayesha Curry, eluded to the fact that she was “somewhat jealous” of the adulation & attention that her husband receives, being a rich NBA phenom. She lamented to the ‘Red Table Talk’ crew that she wished

Sunday, May 12, 2019

Would You Date Outside Your Race?

For more than a century, the United States has been considered a melting pot.  It is a country where people from all over the world come to find opportunity and make a new life.  In the beginning, different ethnic groups may have had a difficult time coming together because of language differences.  Over time, everyone adopted English and other US customs.  That put everyone on

Sunday, April 28, 2019

Are Men Having Better Luck Finding Love in Other Countries?

For decades, women in the US were asked if money or a great sex life was more important in a relationship.  Until the mid 80s, women said they preferred a great lover over money.  What happened?  How did the value system of women change?  In 2019, the workforce is filled with more women than men.  And many women earn much higher incomes than the past.  Yet, they would

Thursday, April 25, 2019

Are Men Having Better Luck Finding Love in Other Countries?

Some say love is love no matter where you get it.  Others say that you can’t help who you love.  Therefore, love can be found anywhere, even where you are.  However, has love become less of a priority in the US?  Has being

Sunday, April 21, 2019

What Happens After Infidelity?

One of the most damaging events in a love relationship is infidelity.  Even if the couple stays together, there is a residue of mistrust in the air.  Yet, somehow they remain a couple.  However, do people really explore the underlying causes of infidelity?  Or do they simply believe the

Thursday, April 18, 2019

My Partner Cheated….Now What?

The general consensus about WHY people cheat is that there’s a problem with either the cheater – or the relationship. Often we assume cheaters have a history/pathology, or at best a form of immaturity that pushes them into infidelity. We assume the primary relationship is flawed in some significant way that creates a “need” for external sex and intimacy. Either way, we tend to view infidelity as

Sunday, April 14, 2019

Here's Where You Find the Best Relationship Advice

What’s Your Advice?

Many of our listeners have come to depend on the solid feedback and information provided on our shows.  In fact, for the past several weeks, people have been sending Blair and I emails with requests.  People are seeking feedback on their relationship challenges.  Some are married.  Others are single.  The emails and inbox messages are coming from men and women of different ages.  While they have all requested to

Sunday, April 7, 2019

Does an Abundance of Money in Marriage Guarantee Eternal Bliss?

In 2016, R&B superstar Ciara married Seahawks QB, Russell Wilson.  In the world of entertainment, they are a power couple.  While the couple lives in a beautiful home in Washington state, there have been rumors that

Wednesday, April 3, 2019

Is It Possible to Marry Someone Wealthy and Still Lose?

Unless you live on another planet, you’ve no doubt heard multiple discussions on how R&B superstar Ciara & Seahawks QB, Russell Wilson, got together.  You may even know why they’re together, who her ex is (rapper Future) and a long dirty

Sunday, March 31, 2019

How Do You Know You’re Choosing the Right Person for a Love Relationship?

It’s easy to fall in love.  It’s even easier to fall out of love.  Many people believe you fall out of love because you missed something between “falling in” and “falling out”.  However, when you look at the most successful relationships, there is a step most people miss before “falling in” love. 

Part of that first step is about

Friday, March 29, 2019

What Comes Before Love in an Intimate Relationship?

It’s safe to say that most people want to experience romantic love.  Yet, for some reason, many marriages that start with love will end in divorce.  That’s not counting the amount of relationships that start and end on a dead end street.  How can so many people claim to want the same thing yet be unable to find it? 

Perhaps it’s our

Sunday, March 24, 2019

Do You Know How to Transform Your Intimate Relationship into a Partnership?

What is a partnership?  While there are many definitions, including a business partnership, I will take one from Merriam-Webster.  It says “a relationship resembling a legal partnership and usually involving close cooperation between parties having specified and joint rights and responsibilities”.  It also says “an arrangement in which people engage in an activity or business with one another or share something with each other”.  In other words, partnership requires a

Thursday, March 21, 2019

Does a Man Win or Lose When He Chooses to Be a Player?

Here’s Why Your Love Relationship Won’t Turn into a Powerful Partnership

In the 21st Century, many singles claim they want a partnership with someone special.  Yet, that reality seems to evade them.  While some may say the definition of partnership is up to the individual couple, it doesn’t matter how you define it if

Sunday, March 17, 2019

Will the “Me Too” Movement Backfire on Women?

Throughout history, there have been a number of good intentions that have gone bad.  In the simplest form, the Good Samaritan helps someone and gets robbed.  In other cases, extreme police force has been used to stop crime in places like Washington, DC and the Bronx, NY.  In both cases, the crime rate increased.  The use of punishment to