Women initiate an enormous amount of violence on men and
boys. As men, we keep our lips
sealed. We have been indoctrinated
with the belief that it is improper to discuss bad behavior by women. We are charged with the responsibility
of protecting women, no matter what.
Silence about the violence we endure is one way to protect women. That silence can create
resentment. That bottled up resentment can come out
in ugly ways.
Recently a 20 year old woman recorded her boyfriend telling
her he was going to shoot her.
Minutes after making that recording he shot her. How could a boy raised by a mother
commit such a heinous crime against a woman?
This is the conversation society has been sweeping under the
rug for eons. Psychologists say a
child’s personality is developed by age two. By age 10, most of a child’s philosophies and behaviors will
remain the same throughout adulthood.
During the first 10 years of a child’s life, he spends more time with
his mother. Therefore, he has a
greater influence from mother than father.
If this is the case, why are some boys excessively
violent? Some say it is because
their father is violent towards the mother. Is that true?
According to the Harvard Medical School, women start 70% of domestic
violence. In addition, many
children are raised in single mother households. Of the 27 mass shootings committed by boys or men, 26 came
from single mother households.
At some point, we have to start asking: what is happening
between a boy and his mother, such that, he believes raping, abusing or killing
a woman is acceptable? It would
seem that all mothers are teaching their sons to love and respect women. Because men are becoming more violent
in society, we have to ask how the mother is influencing her son.
Some women believe they have to use excessive force with
their sons to discipline them.
Furthermore, some single women resent the father of their son because
the relationship did not work out.
That resentment can be taken out on the son. In other cases, women have a string of bad relationships
with men. Her dissatisfaction and
anger with men can be directed towards her son because he is a man as
well. How to boys internalize that
excessive force? Men and boys do
not like being beaten by girls or women.
Psychologically is can create resentment.
If we are to change this dynamic, we must first discuss
it. Join us for the conversation
no one wants to have. Together we
can find solutions.
Tonight, Sunday, December 1, from 7:00pm-8:30pm (EST) at Straight
Talk with Ted Santos.
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