Sunday, December 30, 2018

What Are the Top 10 Relationship Tools for 2019?

Millions of people have acquired tools and knowledge for their career through formal education.  However, when it comes to the most important part of their life, a love relationship, they just “wing it”.  In some ways, people are performing experimental

Wednesday, December 26, 2018

What’s the Best Advice You Have Ever Been Given?

In the face of gender wars, many men feel cornered.  They have heard the cries of women and most men believe they have been responsive.  Yet, with the advent of the “Me Too” movement, masses of men are lost for words.  Women have pointed the finger at all men with terms like “toxic masculinity”.  This has resulted in

Tuesday, December 25, 2018

Why Do We Have Gender Wars?

Happy Holidays everyone.  At a time of the year when people seek peace on earth, men and women are still at war with one another – the battle of the sexes.  This past Sunday on Straight Talk, with Ted Santos and Blair Nash, we addressed one of the biggest challenges faced by adults, especially in the black community.  We wanted to know: Why Do We Have Gender Wars?  Through this topic, we uncovered the

Sunday, December 23, 2018

How Can We Stop “The Gender Wars”?

Go to just about anyone’s social media page where they discuss relationships, and you will find some of the most barbaric and disrespectful content you’ve seen in decades.

Men and women have always seen things somewhat

Sunday, December 16, 2018

Has the “Me Too” Movement Gone Too Far?

Whether it’s an animal, insect or atom, males and females compliment one another.  In fact, their survival is predicated on them working together.  Even the black widow spider needs a male to perpetuate the species. 

However, for some reason, a small group

Thursday, December 13, 2018

Is “Me Too” Taboo for Men to Discuss?

For decades, the feminist movement has demonized men.  However, over the last decade, the feminist movement has become less popular amongst women in the US.  Is the “Me Too” movement a desperate attempt to bring life back to feminism?  Or are men the beastly animals that feminism has depicted?

When we explore human behavior, we find there are certain behaviors that are apparent anywhere in the world.  One of the behaviors is the result of

Tuesday, December 11, 2018

Who Needs Sex More: Men or Women?

That’s right.  We talked about S-E-X.  This past Sunday on Straight Talk, with Ted Santos and Blair Nash, we got down and dirty with everyone’s favorite subject.  We wanted to know: Why Does Sex Conjure up So Much Controversy?  It was interesting to hear people openly discuss their thoughts about sex, sexual conversations and what happens when it’s not available.

While men and women called into the show, Blair and I put a couple of ladies

Sunday, December 9, 2018

Why Does Sex Conjure Up So Much Fear and Controversy?

Everyone wants to have sex.  But no one wants to really talk about it.  In fact, in the US, we have created an entire Broadway play around sex.  It’s an awkward dance of pretense.  If you’re a man, you pretend you have a large macho sex drive.  If you’re a woman, you pretend sex is not important to you.  Then everyone pretends

Tuesday, December 4, 2018

Who Needs Sex More: Men or Women?

For decades, there has been a rumor that men only want one thing – sex.  The rumor has been told for so many years that even some men believe it’s true.  Then they get into a serious relationship and learn their needs go

Wednesday, November 28, 2018

Do You Need More Than Love to Create a Great Relationship?

People speak of the power of love and how it brings couples together.  Yet, most marriages fail.  And the majority of those marriages were conducted in the name of love.  How is this possible?

If love is the bond that brings people together, is it possible that most do not know

Tuesday, November 27, 2018

Should Men Discuss the Red Flags They See in the Woman They Are Dating?

This past Sunday on Straight Talk, with Ted Santos and Blair Nash, we discussed a very sticky topic.  We asked: What are the Red Flags Men Should Be Aware of When Dating?  This show was educational for men and women.  And it highlighted part of the reason relationships fail; people do not

Sunday, November 25, 2018

Should Men Look for Warning Signs?

In a great relationship, both people grow.  And they contribute to one another’s growth.  That growth happens emotionally, intellectually, sexually and spiritually.  In a really good partnership, your career will blossom as well.  When growth is not happening, it may be

Wednesday, November 21, 2018

What Are the Red Flags Men Should Be Aware of When Dating?

Fellas, when you first get to know a woman, she will put her best foot forward.  Some call it her representative with great manners.  After a certain time period, she dismisses the representative and makes her first personal appearance.  Because the real person is so different from the representative, you may feel as though you are

Tuesday, November 20, 2018

Are There Advantages or Disadvantages to Being a Player?

Once again, we had a thought provoking talk show.  On Straight Talk, with Ted Santos and Blair Nash, we discussed a very controversial topic.  We asked: Are There Advantages or Disadvantages to Being a Player?  This show had a

Sunday, November 18, 2018

Are There Advantages or Disadvantages to Being a Ladies Man?

For decades, Hollywood has glamorized the ladies man.  He’s the guy with world-class charm and charisma.  And many men have successfully developed the personality of this Hollywood star. 

Yet, the married man

Does a Man Win or Lose When He Chooses to Be a Player?

On the surface, the answer may appear obvious to many men.  However, when you take a deep dive into the reality, the answer may change. 

The player is the guy who never or rarely commits to one woman.  Instead, he develops a

Tuesday, November 13, 2018

Do Women Really Choose the Wrong Men? Or Is There More to the Story?

In a lively, controversial discussion, men took on a conversation that woman said: it’s impossible for men to address.  The phone lines lit up like crazy.  Most of the callers were men.  The men said it was

Sunday, November 11, 2018

Do Women Really Choose the Wrong Men? Or Is There More to the Story?

There are some women who have fantasies about Prince Charming.  Others fantasize about the bad boy who will sweep her off of her feet.  When she chooses the bad boy, she may also fantasize about how she can polish him as though he is a diamond in the rough.  When she is

Friday, November 9, 2018

Why Do Women Choose the Wrong Men?

If all men were bad, it would make sense for women to choose the wrong guy.  Better said they would not have a choice except to be with the “bad boy”.  However, since most men are good, how does

Tuesday, November 6, 2018

What Do Men Really Need from Women?

If you listened to this past Sunday’s show, Straight Talk, thank you.  If you missed it, wow, you missed something special.  So often women say men don’t communicate.  Well, on this show, several men communicated exactly what they needed from the woman in their lives. 

In this amazingly open and transparent discussion, most men expressed a common theme about their needs from women.  It was support, communication and intimacy/love.  Not only did these men clearly articulate their needs, they gave details and examples of what they meant by support, communication and intimacy. 

As anticipated, Straight Talk with Ted Santos and Blair Nash has become a platform for men to discuss their perspective about love and relationships.  It’s the perfect place for young men who have grown up without a father in the home.  The conversations give young men an opportunity to hear guys of all ages discuss relationships, expectations and responsibilities.  In addition, for the ladies of all ages who are struggling to understand men, this is the best place in the world to hear men, uninterrupted.  And the show allows women to call in and ask their toughest questions.

Next Sunday, November 11, the topic will be just as engaging and perhaps controversial.  Straight Talk is the place where you can speak about the things everyone avoids.  Join us! 

To hear the November 4, show, click here:

What do you think? I would love to hear your feedback. And I’m open to ideas. Or if you want to write me about a specific topic, connect through my blog

Sunday, November 4, 2018

Do Women Know What Men Really Need?

Through one of the most anticipated topics of the century, we are going to uncover one of the secrets of building a successful relationship.  In some cases, when people go into relationships, they have no idea what the other person wants or needs.  Too often the solution is to

Thursday, November 1, 2018

What Do Men Really Need from Women?

There are many chants about the needs of men.  Some women chant that men are simple creatures who don’t need much.  Others say men only need food and sex.  Yet, 50% of divorces fail.  The top two reasons for failed divorce is money and sex.  How is this

Sunday, October 28, 2018

Can a Woman Be “Too Old” for Marriage?

When someone said beauty was only skin deep, they were not kidding.  There are so many women, who appear beautiful, yet are perpetually single.  Some of them claim it’s a choice.  Is that a fact?  Do all these women really want a life without love and affection?  Or is there more to the story? 

Today we will look at the unfortunate phenomenon of women who are all alone.  Except, we will open this can of worms from a man’s perspective. 

Join us today, Sunday, October 28, for a lively and engaging conversation, from a man’s point of view.  The discussion goes from 7:00 pm – 8:00 pm.  Ladies, not even you will want to miss this one.  

Click link to go directly to the show. 

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To join the discussion call:  (323) 642-1387. 

Thursday, October 25, 2018

Can a Woman Be “Too Old” for Marriage?

In a recent article about marriage in China, they described an appropriate age for women to marry.  In the article, they stated a woman who is unmarried by age 30 is considered undesirable.  In China, they call it Shen nu, which means “left over”.  When a man is seeking a new bride, his hope is that she is under 30.  If she is 30 and over, there will be frowns and questions about

Tuesday, October 23, 2018

Is Your Mind Dangerous?

People use their minds to survive.  Without the mind to survive, perhaps mankind would have become extinct eons ago.  However, the mind can also be somewhat lazy.  When it’s lazy, it goes into autopilot.  In autopilot, it does not use logic and reason.  It mostly reacts, like knee jerk responses.  In autopilot, the mind becomes less interested in

Friday, October 19, 2018

Going Behind the Scenes on Why Men Really Cheat

For decades, we have heard many reasons for why men cheat.  In most cases, it has been the woman’s point of view about why men cheat.  Unfortunately, society has accepted those points of view as the truth.  Now the media promotes the woman’s perspective.  What’s worse is that

Tuesday, October 16, 2018

Do Women Understand Men?

Friends & Family: Thank you for your support.  The radio show, Straight Talk with Ted Santos and Blair Nash, had a very successful debut.  From calls and private messages I received after the show, there were quite a few listeners who gave very positive feedback. 

One of the major points that came from the show is

Friday, October 12, 2018

Quick Announcement and Favor…

After last Sunday’s launch of the radio show, Blair and I have had to work out a few glitches and bugs. Now that they’ve been worked out, we’re ready to air this Sunday at 7:00pm. Before we engage in a lively discussion about relationships, I have a favor to ask. We want to make sure the show is relevant to you. To ensure that, I request you drop me 2 questions or topics you would like us to address. You can write it below or in my inbox at Look forward to speaking with you Sunday.

What do you think? I would love to hear your feedback. And I’m open to ideas. Or if you want to write me about a specific topic, connect through my blog

Tuesday, October 2, 2018

Straight Talk

Straight Talk is a live call-in radio show that airs every Sunday from 7:00 pm - 8:00 pm on  Click the icon that looks like the photo.  

To join the conversation, call: 323 642-1387.  

‘Straight Talk’ is the place where men discuss life and relationships from a man’s point of view. 

Don’t miss it, even if you’re a woman.

For decades, women have had many platforms to discuss important issues concerning love, money, education, career, health, relationships, marriage and divorce.  During this time, there have been absolutely no platforms for men.  Conversations have been one sided and dictated by what women want.  As a result, men have been silenced.  This has had consequences.   

More than ever men are experiencing frustrations with women.  The rules of yesterday have quickly changed, and men are unsure how to approach or establish happiness in love relationships with women.  Unfortunately, there is no platform for men to come together to discuss these challenges.  

Ted Santos and Blair Nash have created a platform to fill that void in society. 

It’s rare for men to have a platform that allows them to discuss life challenges – love, work, and family.  Instead, as it’s a learned behavior, most men keep many of their concerns bottled inside. 

By creating a live call-in radio show through the Internet, ‘Straight Talk’ is a place where men can openly speak about their personal concerns and receive feedback from two professionals – Ted and Blair.  Ted Santos is an executive coach and advisor to CEOs of middle market companies.  He also has expertise transforming corporate culture (behavior).

Blair is a certified life coach and author of three relationship books.  He counsels husbands and wives, dating couples, and individuals.  

While the show is designed for men, it’s an opportunity for women to hear what men really think.  Though the focus is towards men, women are strongly encouraged to call in.   

‘Straight Talk’ will be broadcast every Sunday from 7:00pm-8:00pm.  Because it’s a live show, callers will have the opportunity, if appropriate, to be coached or receive feedback to find real time solutions to meeting women, dating, relationship challenges or problems in the workplace. 

Some of the topics the program will cover are the following:

  1. Staying out of the friend zone
  2. What do you want from a woman?
  3. Why men cheat/Why women cheat
  4. The family man
  5. How do you choose the right woman?
  6. Negotiating with your woman
  7. Dealing with the career woman
  8. Getting what you want from your woman
  9. Career women vs. stay at home mom
  10. The stay at home dad
  11. Is marriage beneficial to men?
  12. Are you educated?
  13. What’s your next career move?
  14. Is entrepreneurship in your DNA?
  15. What are your transferable skills for a better career?
  16. Corporate life vs. trade or skilled
  17. Child support
  18. Are there good women out there?
  19. Finding love overseas
  20. Love in the workplace

We look forward to your participation.  Let's break the silence. 

What do you think? I would love to hear your feedback. And I’m open to ideas. Or if you want to write me about a specific topic, connect through my blog

Monday, September 17, 2018

Guess Who’s Making a Major Change?

Friends & Family: Many of you are aware that I am aboutto make a major change in my life.  I have created a platform that takes me from working with executives to working with anyone who wants success.  My experience advising executives helped me to become more insightful into the challenges that cause people to achieve their most important desires as well as the ones that stop them.  As an advisor, I have seen some of the smartest and most successful people sabotage great plans.  That experience showed me that everyone has

I’m Moving on Up!

Friends & Family: If you’ve noticed, for the past several weeks, I have not written articles.  There is a reason for that.  I am about to make a monumental move in my life.  Up to now, I have been known for writing leadership articles and running businesses as a senior executive.  As many of you know, I expanded that part of my career by advising CEOs and other executives on creating disruptive strategies to create quantum growth.  In that capacity, I also had a focus on transforming corporate culture.  

I am preparing to transfer those skills and competencies to a very different part of life.  I will keep you posted on this new platform and when it will launch.  Some of you will be very surprised.  Others may say: what took you so long?  

I will appreciate your support and look forward to sharing something valuable.

Talk to you soon.

What do you think? I would love to hear your feedback. And I’m open to ideas. Or if you want to write me about a specific topic, connect through my blog

Tuesday, July 24, 2018

Is It True That Racism Died?

This may be the most controversial article you’ve ever read.  At the same time, controversial conversations can alter your perspective of reality.  Altered perspectives can usher in new actions. 

I wish this were an easy conversation.  It’s not.  It really is analogous to telling

Tuesday, July 10, 2018

Who Is Responsible for Your Choices?

While the answer may seem obvious, it’s not for many.  You get one life and it’s yours.  Whether it’s your major in college, career, spouse or prison, you have encountered everything in your life because of your choices.  While it’s true your environment shaped your thoughts and belief systems, it is

Tuesday, June 26, 2018

Will Courage Make You a Great Leader?

If you lack courage, does it mean you will never be a great leader?  In the US, it appears that common sense says courage is a profound part of being a great leader.  As a result, aspiring leaders go about their day to demonstrate their courage to the world.  However, when you look at many of the most effective leaders, perhaps it is

Tuesday, June 19, 2018

Should Leaders Send Themselves to the Timeout Room?

The notion of time out is generally seen as punishment for children who misbehave.  In the context of this article, it has a much more profound meaning.  In sports, teams call time out when they are running out of time, overwhelmed or need to thoroughly think through the next play.  In life, regardless of how well you manage time, it eventually runs out.  As a result, some people are

Tuesday, May 15, 2018

How Do Leaders Handle Breakdowns?

In your personal or professional life, breakdowns occur.  When I say breakdowns, it includes problems, disruptions, challenges, chaos, misfortune, disaster, etc.  When it comes to business, in many cases, the larger the goal the larger the breakdown.  If you’re a leader, the way you handle those problems can

Tuesday, May 8, 2018

What Happens When Leadership Does Not Create a Corporate Culture?

I have worked as an executive and advisor to CEOs in variousindustries.  In either capacity, I have noticed a pattern.  One pattern is that high performing companies have a culture of high accountability.  Low performing organizations tend to have toxic cultures and confusion.  Nevertheless, effective leaders can always

Tuesday, May 1, 2018

What Is Leadership?

Perhaps the shortest and easiest answer to “what is leadership?” is: there is no leadership.  At least there is no such thing as the archetypal leader who, as the dictionary says, “is the action of leading a group of people or an organization”.  Or it is said to be “a state or position of being the leader”.  What’s odd about the definitions is they are both

Tuesday, April 24, 2018

What Does Your Intimate Life Have to Do with Your Professional Life?

On the surface, it would seem your professional and intimate lives are worlds apart.  However, when you peel back the layers, you find patterns that are mirrored in both.  For example, whatever upsets you in your personal life will upset you in the workplace, even if you are taught to suppress it at work.  Eventually those upsets will

Tuesday, April 17, 2018

Here’s Why Leadership Books Will Never Make You a Great Leader

If you want to read about leadership, go into any bookstore.  Or search the Internet.  You’ll find millions of entries online and thousands of copies in bookstores.  And every book has the answer. They tell you to be a situational leader, primal leader, emotionally intelligent leader, servant leader and the list goes on.  Yet, many, many people still struggle with being an effective leader.  And even more people are

Tuesday, April 10, 2018

Here’s Why Your Words Have No Power

When you learn your first language, it is to ensure you are able to communicate with others.  Before you learn a language, you cry to be fed or to have your diaper changed.  Language allows you to speak instead of cry.  Once language is acquired, most people use it to communicate what they want or don’t want.  Therefore, it is a tool.  However, it is one of the most

Tuesday, February 20, 2018

Are Leaders Really Needed in Organizations?

Leadership.  Is it really essential to have leaders in an organization?  For the past few decades, there have been companies that have eliminated titles.  There are no CEOs, presidents or managers.  In some cases, there are no individual owners.  The employees own the company.  In today’s business model, some call it a

Tuesday, January 30, 2018

Great Leaders Don’t Tell You What to Do

In many cases, people become managers because they solve problems better than others.  And problems solvers can be rather proud about telling others about how to implement solutions they have discovered.  While being a problem solver may be a normal path to management, it is a trap.  For those managers who move to senior management, being the best problem solver can become

Tuesday, January 9, 2018

Here’s Why You Are Inadvertently a Huge Trump Supporter

Perhaps there has never been such disdain for a president of the US as there has been for President Trump.  While the majority of the US population voted for his opponent, Hilary Clinton, the electorate votes made Trump the winner.  Therefore, more than half of the US citizens opposed President Trump from the beginning.  Yet, in their desire to invalidate him, they will ensure he