Does Trauma Really Exist? Or Is It Just in Your Mind?

 

It is kind of like I am off to see the Wizard, the Wonderful Wizard of Oz. Except, there is no man behind the curtain.  Over the weekend, I visited the man I call the wisest in the world.  This time the conversation was so provocative he asked me to

What Did the Wisest Man in the World Say About Robotic People?

 

It has been several years since I have written an article about a gentleman I call the wisest man in the world.  In a December 2, 2014, article, many were outraged by his comments and called him a eugenicist.  While some did not like what he stated, others thought he was brilliant and provided real solutions to some of society’s most pressing needs.  As a rule, he tends to think

Why Do People Believe Love Conquers All?

For more than a century, people have believed love is the solution for almost everything.  Yet, more than 50% of married couples divorce, even though they claim to have fallen in love.  Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result is considered insanity.  

In this video, I talk about a realistic solution to relationship problems. 

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What the World Does Not Need Is Love

 

When you watch Hollywood movies, the message is love will save the day.  The same message is communicated in music.  Yet, the divorce courts are filled with couples that relied on love to make their holy matrimony work.  For some reason, love did not save them.  In case no one has noticed, love has

What Happens When Ted Santos Is Interviewed by a Psychologists Who Is a Couple’s Therapist?

The book I wrote, Here’s Why You Can’t Find Love, it is still surprising readers.  In a recent interview with a psychologist, even he was surprised when I  revealed how everyone is being taught to look for the wrong things in a potential mate.  By changing this

What Are the Top 10 Reasons You Will Never Find Love? (Video)

What Are the Top 10 Reasons You Will Never Find Love?

In the US, Hollywood and romance novels have done a great job of shaping ideals of love.  The eager handsome man who jumps through hoops to win over the passionate woman who is the love of his life.  In the movies, they show

Why Are Titans of Their Industry the Best Leaders?

With change happening faster than ever, businesses need internal mechanisms that consistently orchestrate transformation.  Transformation cannot be demanded of people.  Nor can executives pay people to do it.  Like a special forces team that is

Are CEO Roles Really Changing?

Several years ago I wrote an article stating CEOs will become more people focused instead of finance focused.  That means executives would come from sales and marketing or have backgrounds in psychology, social anthropology, economics and sociology.  These executives would no longer be committed to financial reengineering or buying

Stop Thinking You Are in Control of Your Life

Are Women Failing Society?

Cocktails and Cigars - Ted Santos Talks Relationships

Ted Santos Will Be Interviewed on Augusts 1st

 

In the most quintessential display of masculinity, last year four gentlemen interviewed me while they all sipped on spirits and puffing on Cuban cigars.  They wanted to know my perspective on intimate relationships and what motivated

Should There Be a World Police Force to Oversee All Countries?

 

At some point, countries oppose one another.  It could be for land or other natural resources.  In other cases, there are behind the scenes politics the majority of the population never hears about.  To deter conflict amongst nations, the North Atlantic Treaty Organization (NATO) was created.  NATO exists to

Have You Been Taught to Be a Victim?

 

This video will disrupt the minds of most people.  Throughout history, we have been taught to believe in many things that later proved to be incorrect.  In this video, I talk about how we are taught to be helpless, victims.  While it is most likely not the intentional, the belief stops people from really understanding self.  Many of you may find yourself experiencing cognitive dissonance while listening to this.  

I would love to hear your thoughts. 

Why Is It So Difficult to Become a Great Leader?

 

As men, we are expected to be leaders in every aspect of our lives.  Except, leadership is more than confidence and feeling good about yourself.  How do men learn about leadership?  How does what they learn affect

Is There an Effective Plan to Develop Leaders of the Future?

 

There is an old debate. People question whether leaders are born or made. The experts seems to believe leaders are made. As history shows, there have been great leaders who moved society in an ideal direction. Then there have been leaders who left an ugly mark on history. Will tomorrow’s leaders reflect today’s mindset? Or will they usher in a movement that is desirable for every civilization?

Is Succession Planning Just for CEOs?

 

This is a big and complex subject.  Stay with me on this one.  Most people think succession planning is only for CEOs of corporations.  I would like to expand it well beyond CEOs or businesses.  

When you are the CEO, you have to prepare the organization for the day you will retire.  That means when you retire, there is someone who has been

How Does Your Professional Life Impact Your Personal Life and Vice Versa?

 

Throughout our lives, we learn from many people and places.  For some reason, we attempt to keep the knowledge in silos or chambers.  Work is for work and love is for love.  Are we missing opportunities?

Do You Have the Power of a Disruptive Leader?

 

Many people believe being a boss is all about telling others what to do.  From another perspective, some of the most effective leaders give their people huge problems to solve.  The leader steps back and allows staff and management figure it out.  While this can be disruptive, it is a powerful path to breakthroughs.  

The trick to this method is being able to navigate self and others through chaos and uncertainty.  Those are two aspects of life that most want to avoid.  Yet, the breakthrough is almost always on the other side of a breakdown.  Therefore, you must be able to lead others through the breakdown.  

What are your thoughts?  How do you lead people into a breakthrough?  

Do Alphas Make Good Leaders?

 

Many brag about being the big alpha dog.  However, do alphas have glass ceilings in their careers?  Are they great at producing results through others?  Check out the facts.  In this video. 

Is There a Difference Between an Alpha and a Leader?

 

There is so much talk about being the alpha dog in business and social settings.  For most people, they believe alpha is synonymous with leader.  Are they?  Most may be surprised by the facts.  Others will be disappointed.  Still a few will be in

From Intern to Executive to Entrepreneur

While in college, many covet internships in prestigious corporations.  They are an opportunity to gain work experience and secure a full time job after graduation.  However, an internship is no guarantee you will ever move up the corporate ladder.  When you do, it is

Are You Prepared for the Love of Your Life?

 

While Here’s Why You Can’t Find Love was written as a relationship book, it takes the reader on a journey of personal transformation.  The book is about

Do Toxic People Know They Are Toxic?

 

The word toxic has become a popular part of US culture.  We call men toxic for being masculine.  Women are toxic for being feminine.  Soon we will call dogs toxic for barking.  In the US, we have become so obsessed with accusing others of being toxic that some people are afraid to be themselves in public.  Isn't that