In the US, Hollywood and romance novels have done a great job of shaping ideals of love. The eager handsome man who jumps through hoops to win over the passionate woman who is the love of his life. In the movies, they showfireworks and play music that intensifies the feelings for love scenes. And they write the most poetic lines for the actors to say.
When people attempt to apply those love scenes to real life, there is almost always something missing. Whether it’s the music, fireworks, passion or poetic lines that are missing, it appears people are unfulfilled in relationships. What Hollywood has done is create an environment where people are constantly disappointed in their romantic life because it never measures up to a Hollywood love story.
In the movies, the story is almost always the same. Boy chases girl and gets her. Boy loses girl and feels bad. Boy gets girl back. All of this happens in less than 2 hours. Therefore, we never get to see what it really takes to create a great relationship. We don’t even get to understand love. We hear sound bites and are amazed by well choreographed scenes. Then we attempt to mimic. At the very least, we expect it to magically happen in the same way it magically happened in the movie.
When you clearly understand this, it becomes apparent that very few people fully comprehend the responsibilities required to have a great, stable intimate relationship. We instead seek to experience the same dopamine rush we felt watching the movie.
With that said, let’s talk about the top 10 reasons people will not find love. Some of you will hate me for the list I am going to present. Why? There are many items on the list that have come to be known as normal. Yet, very few have come to the realization that it does not work. For the lucky ones, you don’t do any of these things. For the rest, you may hear one or two that you do. And others may see you do them all.
- People do not know how to create a great relationship. They believe love creates great relationships.
- People do not listen.
- People do not know how to resolve conflict - conflict resolution skills.
- People do not know who is compatible with them.
- People have nothing to offer beyond sex and money.
- People play games - cat and mouse is just one game.
- People lack relationship skills.
- People go into relationships believing it’s hard work.
- People go into relationships with their hands out and nothing in it.
- People believe love is from movies and books.
As you can see, there are many things that can make a relationship fall apart. Some of those things are done because we believe everyone else is doing it. Therefore, it is normal. There is a saying: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results in insanity. Well, it seems much of the US has gone insane when it comes to relationships.
If you want to hear details for each number, watch video: https://turnaroundip.blogspot.com/2022/09/what-are-top-10-reasons-you-will-never_27.html
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