What’s the #31 Reason You Can’t Find Love?

 

The #31 reason you can’t find love may not be considered common sense.  Common sense says you are supposed to take care of your significant other.  Unfortunately, many people only make clear demonstrations of care for their significant other if

certain conditions are met.  Each person has their conditions.  I have already made a video that addressed the fact there is no such thing as unconditional love, not even for your children.  

The #31 reason you can’t find love is because you don’t care for the relationship.  This is a very abstract concept.  In my book, Here’s Why You Can’t Find Love, I go into great detail about this.  I will explain it here. 

When 2 people come together, they make a third person.  The third person is an amalgamation of the 2.  Whatever you offer as an individual, the third person will possess the same.  It will simply be a combination of the 2 of you.  Because it is a combination of the 2 of you, it will take care of each of you.  Therefore, it is imperative that each of you be responsible for caring for the third person.  

However you care for the third person is how the third person will care for each of you.  Like a plant, it needs certain elements to keep it alive.  If you want a plant to thrive, you will go above and beyond average soil, water and sunshine.  There is research that shows plants thrive if they are spoken to kindly.  They like music.  If you feed it quality soil, it will enrich the plant to grow stronger and faster.  

This is the same idea that is needed when 2 people come together and make a third person.  That third person needs to be cared for above and beyond the minimum requirements for survival.  Whatever you put into that third person is exactly what you will receive in return.  

If only one of you provides great care for the relationship, it could survive.  Most likely it will not be as powerful if both contribute.  That could be a formula for mediocrity.  In other cases, it can serve as an education for the person who does not know what they are doing.  

If you are in a relationship, start to think about who you want that third person to be.  What is your contribution to that third person?  Are you caring for it in a way it wants to be cared for?  If that third person is not growing and developing the way you want, it may be time to sit down with your partner and discuss each of your contributions.  Remember.  If you play games or use manipulation, that is exactly what the third person or relationship will offer you in return.  If you want love, affection and acknowledgement, that is exactly what you will need to put into it.