"Fear
is that little darkroom where negatives are developed." Michael Pritchard
In the dark
corners of our minds, we create lasting pieces of fear, impeding success.
Oftentimes, we fear what we know
about ourselves. We make presuppositions about what could happen and when we
want to accomplish something new, we predetermine our limits.
Our past
assesses what we do well and what we can’t do. We make assumptions without
ever
making the attempt. “I just know myself. I am not the kind of person who can
do_____.”
Film can
develop into colorful photographs, after emerging from the black abyss. As
mentioned in previous posts, our environment establishes the dark
conversations. Nonetheless, we have the power to change those thoughts.
Listen to those
around you. Are the conversations continuously negative? If so, you can be the
catalyst amongst your friends, family and co-workers and bring them out of the
darkroom.
Start by
complimenting people you know. Find something good in everyone. When people
engage you in a conversation from a negative perspective, ask, “What are the
benefits behind those negatives?”
When people
tell you all the reasons why something is impossible, listen patiently. When
they finish, acknowledge their keen insight and prowess in understanding how
things work. Then you can tell them since they understand all that could go
wrong, they are the best candidates to answer the following question:
“If this
situation worked, what would need to happen?” This question stops people in
their tracks. If you do it often enough, you will always be looking at both
sides and people will anticipate your questions, having prepared to answer with
any perspective.
Fear may stall
us. However, since most fear is a presupposition about what has and never will
happen, it should not stop nor control us. You have a choice. You can walk out
of the darkroom with negatives or with brilliantly colorful images of the
future you want to have.
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