If you look at the animal kingdom, it appears male and females come together easily. While humans are animals, they have added layers of complexity to dating and mating. Being a man or women is not enough for the opposite sex. There arebody types, hair and face attractions, scent, language, socioeconomic class and many other standards.
In the black community, it seems to be more difficult for men and women to retain healthy relationships. Women claim they only want a man who can provide financial resources and protection. While I’m not sure what they are being protected from, those are simple requirements. Oh yeah, they want the man to be 6’2”, well built, great education and job. The job has to be no less than six figures. If you meet that criterion, she will fall madly in love with you and live happily ever after, just like in the fairytales.
On the other hand, black men seem to want a traditional women who is well educated, has a great six figure job, has two wonderful children (only with him), plays the role of a traditional wife, is a great and accommodating lover with a beautiful body. To keep that body, she needs to be in the gym everyday. In addition, she needs to be a virgin or close to it. If not, she is not wife material.
While all those qualities will get her noticed, there are other characteristics that are just as important. Some can include pleasant attitude, great at networking, high intelligence, resourceful with money and a host of other things. Some of those requirements are clearly articulated by the man. Some are not.
At least this is what women say it is like dealing with quality black men. If she misses one thing, she could be disqualified. Women say they just want to be in a loving relationship where she is the prize and the man is a catch. But men are not making it as simple as nature has designed it to be.
So let’s have an open and honest conversation about it. Perhaps it is all just a misunderstanding. Join us at the relationship roundtable and bring your toughest questions.
Tonight, Sunday, May 17, from 7:00pm-9:00pm (EST) at Straight Talk with Ted Santos.
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